PS: Find the attachment.
Not a random musing.
Connections between human beings are weird. There. I said it.
You fight with the world, having to plead your kith and kin to understand you when they are ‘supposed’ to be doing so. On the other hand, you find relief in venting out to a stranger.
Whatever be the cause- adulting, growing up, being matured- I hardly think that our families know the real us after a certain age. Glory to the kids who do not have to have different versions of themselves in different circles, though!
When a lot of hustles keep happening in and around you, you will be forced to pull off different perspectives in different circumstances. It's all a balance! While the studious, obedient and capable daughter resides in one chamber, the loud laughing extremely lousy friend stays in the next. The responsible and short-tempered leader and the lost lonely baffled shares boundaries in the other chambers.
To pick one and engross all of me to one version is quite difficult, for I am all of it. I am all these, culminated together, melded in the right proportion, and gifted with the talent of carrying off each chronicle when the time requires so.
But, don’t you think all of these, when in the same person, can bring in conflicts within themselves? Well, not always. Cuz, each of the traits get their own chances to be expressed in normal life. You get to handle all of em gracefully.
And the real issues start when you are forced to stay in a single version for a long time, oppressing the other ones and ignoring the conflicts between the chambers happening within yourself. (Has that occurred to all of us during the quarantine?) Each part of yourself selfishly wants to be expressed without giving a damn of the timing.
The curious learner gets hurt when the chore-doer gets most of the time to be in limelight. The outgoing friend gets annoyed when the homemaker daughter only gets appreciated. The responsible professional gets offended and sent back every time it appears instead of the wifey-woman.
So, I guess, when the different MEs cannot be in a calm and normal relationship with each other, how can different individuals relate without being weird?
Cuz, you don’t know which part of YOU is trying to connect to which unknown part of the OTHER.
When YOU do not know to respect all yours and the OTHERs parts, Yes, that will be weird.
